TheHandMaiden
Posted September 19, 2009 by TheHandMaiden

One of my fallen brothers is at fault for the major life changes that have occurred to him and to others around him… he was drunk, not wearing a helmet (not that I wear one each time I get on my bike, but I don’t drink and drive either), and he bloody well passed out while driving 55 in a 35 (not that I go the speed limit each and every minute). A motorcycle can only hold itself up for a very short time.

He’s permanently changed his life. He lives in the rehab center, because his head injury has limited his movements, his speech, his life and the life of those around him.

 When one of your brothers or sisters drinks too much and gets on their bikes… and then crashes…how do you feel?


How long do you continue to visit them?

How long do you continue to alter your life and alter your schedule to visit them in hospital?

Comments
kathyt865 wrote at January 4, 2010
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Your words....because they do know that when you show up you are showing them that they still matter......how ironic when it's been how long since you've seen your 'buddy'?
kathyt865
TheHandMaiden wrote at October 11, 2009
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So nice that someone else feels that same way. Me too. I was just trying to get a feel for the "water". I've got some of my buddy's freinds e-mailin' me to check on his progress... and well, I wish they would just stop by and see him. I know he would enjoy it. Because I feel that you get over bein' mad at the actions taken by our friends, no matter if they do change everyone's life and you hold on to the friendship.

Just stopped in again to see our buddy, today, as a matter of fact.

Sometimes it's not for a long visit, but when I'm down in his area I stop in, update him on my family's going's and comin's. Check on him. Chat with him a bit. Drop off a Sports Illustrated, afterall he is a big Ohio State fan.  Hell, I even stopped by to rib him about USC (my school) beatin' OSU in that first game this year. You know, like I would have had he not gotten injured. After all, the USC/OUS rivalry is a good one we still get to enjoy together.

I hope others take a look at visiting their fallen bretheren. Even as the years drag on. Because they do know that when you show up you are showing them that they still matter.

Here's to still visitin' our friends, no matter if it's one month or 10 years down the road, because that's what friendship is about.

The Hand Maiden
TheHandMaiden
wwdavis50 wrote at October 8, 2009
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My feeling are that true friends are there for each other no matter what the circumstances.
wwdavis50
TheHandMaiden wrote at September 30, 2009
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I do not feel the way it seen Kathy is seeing my comment. I've given many days, nights, many weekends, and months of days at the bedside of my fallen friend. At his home when needed and even when I have not been "needed". Just thought I'd spur some conversation. See if others had an opinion on the subject. Guess I was right. Others do have thoughts on this subject. I'll share more of my true feelings about this after I read others comments.  TheHandMaiden

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